Did you see or hear all the “hoopla” a couple of years ago over
the debate going on within Facebook headquarters over adding a “Dislike” option
in addition to the current “Like” button?
Yikes! It certainly did
stir up a broader debate out there in cyberspace. Here’s a link to one view
expressed about the situation.
Interestingly, as I read the opinions discussed in the
article, I realized the question may not really be about Like or Dislike.
It is not my purpose to dive into that debate in this
post. Rather, it is to use it to get you
thinking about your likes and dislikes and how they can impact your mood.
Think about it…you are faced with having to do something you
dislike intensely. Such a circumstance
can drive your mood into the feeling like being in the dark shadows of a
Transylvanian castle. Cold, dank,
miserable, even scary!
Why are you driven to such a state of mind when you
intensely dislike something? The answer
lies in the meaning of dislike. Why
wouldn’t your mood suffer a negative hit when you are faced with a situation or
choice that creates distaste or even hostility in your mind! It’s human nature.
However, there is an even bigger issue here. Your mood (mind state) affects your thinking
and actions. If your thinking is
negative, your actions will take on negative characteristics. The reverse scenario is also true!
Considering all this, how do you think your “Transylvanian
castle” attitude will affect your pursuit of success?
Well, rather than dwelling on your inevitable answer to the
above question let’s focus on what is important here and a solution to this
very human issue.
When it comes to your pursuit of success and the impact of
your mind state on that pursuit, you must recognize the question can never be
about your likes and dislikes. Why?
In every successful pursuit, you must be willing to accept
all the challenges that come your way. In
other words, the question as to how you will respond to the challenges can
never be whether you like or dislike a particular challenge.
There are 3 reasons why this is always the case.
1
Let’s illustrate the first reason by reflecting on climbing
Mt. Kilimanjaro in Africa. That’s a very
popular thing to do for many people from all over the world. But, to exalt in the euphoria of standing at
the apex of this iconic mountain requires pushing through many distasteful and
hostile things.
Examples: bitter cold:
oxygen deprivation; nausea; physical danger of falling, etc. Don’t believe me?
But, for those who want to experience that exaltation they
must be willing to face and overcome the above “dislikes.” They can’t just “like” the feeling of
reaching the top. They must overcome the
“dislikes” to getting there. They can’t
avoid those, or the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro is totally out of reach!
Now, your challenges to reaching what you define as success
may not be as great as a Kilimanjaro climb.
The fact is though the question in getting there can’t be about your
likes or dislikes. You must accept both!
2
The second reason successfully pursuing your dreams can
never be about likes or dislikes has to do with your passion.
Yes, you can be just as passionate about the things you
dislike versus those you like. However,
to achieve success your passion for achieving it must be greater than
your passion for the dislikes in getting there.
Your passion for success must overwhelm your feeling of dislike for some
of the challenges.
3
Finally, your likes and dislikes can never enter the
question of achieving success because allowing your dislikes to control your mind
state dramatically limits your potential.
Your potential is your capacity to become something greater/better in
the future. Allowing your dislikes to
override your attitude puts a major pall over your future which brings us full
circle back to the first reason noted above.
In everything you want to be, do or have, spend more time on
how you are going to overcome the dislikes.
Your likes will compel you but your dislikes, if out of control, will
stop you.
The answer to overcoming your dislikes is always in knowing,
understanding and deeply feeling why you want to be, do or have something.
What is the most important of your
“dislikes” holding you back? What
specifically are you going to do to overcome it?
Please share your thoughts by commenting below.
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Thank
you.
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